Marriage and Money Tip #6: Using Your Words


My wife and I recently traveled to Estonia to do ministry together. One morning around 4:30 (an hour that is surprisingly bright in Estonia, especially when you have jet lag), we went for a walk and talked about my current series on marriage and how a couple can learn to communicate better about money.

You’ve heard a lot from me on this subject. In this article, I want to share something my wife told me when I asked what she would say about marriage and communication.

“I talk to you a lot inside my head,” she said. “When I ask you a question, I expect you to already know the answers—because we’ve been talking in my head.”

Dawna solves a lot of problems that way—her problems and my problems! Then she wonders why we’re talking about the issue again. Didn’t we already have this conversation?

Saying What Needs to Be Said

Dawna is the founder and co-leader of the International Bethel Sozo Ministry. As she counsels people, she frequently comes across an interesting assumption: women often expect their husbands to know their needs, but they don’t always tell their husbands their needs.

People can have entire conversations in their heads as they try to get their words right, but they don’t always take the next step and actually speak their thoughts aloud.

That’s your marriage and communication tip for today. We need to pay attention to how we are communicating with our spouses. Are we saying with our mouths what needs to be said? Or are we building an internal conversation that is just one sided?

Managing Money in Freedom as a Couple 

Money is a spiritual power that highlights whatever is hiding in your heart. That’s one reason talking about money with your spouse is so important.

If we’re afraid of money, that fear will rear its head in our conversations about financial matters. If we believe money is evil or “bad,” that belief will influence how we use money in our homes. 

Our conversations about money can be very telling. The words we speak reveal if we’re thinking like Prosperous Souls or if we’re wrestling with a poverty spirit or mindset.

When we realize we’re dealing with a false belief about money, we can take hold of that lie as we would a weed and pull it out of our thinking, planting instead the beautiful—and freeing—truth of God’s Word.

A married couple needs to be able to see money for what it is and learn to discuss it in healthy ways so they can manage their finances like Prosperous Souls.


This article is part 6 in a series about marriage and money. To read Stephen’s other articles in this series, click the links below:

Lauren Stinton